There are many myths about leaders: ‘leaders are born and not made’ being a prime example. The truth is that leadership depends on a combination of elements.

The personal qualities of the leader are vital, as are the needs of those being led and the context in which they operate. Although there is no doubt that some personality types thrive better in leadership roles than others, the good news is that leadership skills can be learned. In the same way that you can work on your delegation skills and team management techniques, so you can develop the personal qualities you need to be a good leader, like assertiveness and self-confidence. Moreover, leadership is never a finished product; it is an ongoing process that needs continuous nurturing and refinement.

A lack of assertiveness can hold many people back from developing their true potential, particularly in the role of leader. It is one of the keys to successful leadership, together with sensitivity, and a thorough knowledge of the available approaches.

“I think I’m fairly naturally assertive – typical for the youngest in the family with two older brothers, probably. However, I’ve had to learn to manage this so that I’m effectively assertive. For example, when you think a discussion is not addressing the point in question, there is a right way of going about bringing everyone back in focus without being seen as bombastic.”

Stephanie Manuel, Stagecoach Theatre Arts plc

Build Self-Awareness

Your leadership style is the means by which you communicate with the rest of the organisation. The more self-aware you become, the more effectively it will work for you.

Areas of Self-Awareness:

Self-awareness means understanding and knowing: 

• what you are like
• what your preferences are
• what your goals are
• how other people perceive you and your goals
• how you are motivated to achieve them

“As a child, I was often described as a ‘hothead’ or a ‘firebrand’, and as an adult, I’m known as someone who speaks her mind. I know that this characteristic has had to be tempered by reason, kindness and compassion so that I’m effectively assertive and not seen as bossy or a bully.”
Stephanie Manuel, Stagecoach Theatre Arts plc

This article features in Assert Yourself from the series of everywoman Simple Approach to Business guides. 

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