The other night I was tapping away at the keyboard while my husband was watching football and my son was sleeping upstairs. Like I do every night, I write a few articles, look at some others that I have written, tweet a bit and check Facebook. Yes, I spend a lot of time at the computer. My husband walks in after the game is over and asks me what I am doing. I am writing an article.I respond, taking in his rumpled clothing from lazing on the couch. "What are you writing for?" he asks. What do you mean, what am I writing for? We generally have confusing conversations, as his way of asking a question is a bit on the bizarre side. I mean, what are you writing for. Are you writing for something specific. I am writing an article based on a comment from one of my articles on Huffington Post. It gave me an idea. I tilt my head at him and smile. "You are writing based on a comment? I don't get it. Who are you writing the article for?" he questioned. I don't know yet. I haven't decided. I respond as I look back at the article on the screen. "So, now your hobby is to write based on comments?" This stopped me cold. My HOBBY?!? My hobby? This is hardly a hobby! I have been interviewed; write for Huffington Post as well as other places. I would not call this a hobby! He tried to argue his point, but at this stage in the conversation I had shut down and told him to go to bed and leave me alone. Why am I telling you this conversation?I struggled for years trying to define myself and find myself and figure out who and what I was going to be when I grew up.I kept coming back to the same thing I want to help men and women who are or have been going through a divorce recover and get their lives back on track. This is a career. This is a life. This is a new beginning. I admit, I have not been in the consulting game long, but for the amount of time that I have, I have accomplished a great deal and I am not going to let or allow my husband to take that away from me.I have allowed too many men to take too much from me in the past. But, when he said that to me, a tiny fissure of doubt entered into my head and I wondered, yet again, if I was good enough or smart enough or talented enough to pull this off. It has taken me years to gain back the self confidence that I lost through my multiple marriages and lives and I am not going to allow my current marriage to take it as well. And this, my friends, is what empowerment and healing is all about. Not allowing anyone or anything to deter you from your path or take away your YOU. And, with this I realized that I have broken the cycle I had carried with me all those years.The cycle of getting my confidence and self-esteem from a man.I realized that whether or not I married the same man as the previous two, I was different and that was what mattered most. Do you know why I am a good, no great, divorce consultant? Because I have been there, done that, own the t-shirt and can say that I have broken the cycle. Acknowledge, Accept, Empower and Heal. This article was written by Lee Block. To get more great advice from Diva Toolbox Media Diva Lee Block, visit her website at: http://www.postdivorcechronicles.com